This is not my first weight-loss rodeo.  Like many American women, my size, weight, and level of fitness have yo-yo'ed up and down a lot since adolescence.  At this point, I know pretty well what I have to do in order to lose weight - what to eat to stay within calorie limits without feeling too deprived, etc.  When I'm home or at work, I do pretty well sticking to my plans and eating a healthy diet within my calorie limits that keeps me nourished and fueled.  I've gotten good at that.  What I can't seem to get better at is staying within my planned calorie limits when I'm eating in a social context.  Social events or going out to eat with friends is a big problem I haven't been able to solve for myself.  I have a lot of trouble with unplanned/unintended grazing at parties, eating whatever's on the table (bread, appetizers, leftovers) at restaurants, and I always end up eating way more than I intended when I go out.  I don't eat out a lot, but I also don't want to be afraid to socialize, or be anxious any time I'm making plans to see my friends, or full of regret the next day.  I'm a social person!  How do I maintain at least some semblance of a social life without overeating and beating myself up, or being full or anxiety and stress?!  Halp!