I'm stalled and that needs to change!

10/06/2015 6:54PM

First, thank you for your honesty. Second, I understand completely, minus the marriage thing. In addition to being a sedentary person my entire life, during the last seven years, my family has fallen apart. My parents divorced. My three year old nephew drowned. My grandfather, the only stable member of the family, passed. My depression reached an ultimate high and I gained a significant amount of weight, fifty pounds to be exact. Some days, I just don't want to try. But lately, I've been moving toward a more positive mindset, working at appreciating my body, talents, raising my self-esteem, etc. This bet will, hopefully, be a tremendous help to me. I am searching for myself, readjusting my hopes and dreams and bettering every area of my life. I am so excited for the future and all it will bring! Best of luck to you as well! And congratulations on your four year wedding anniversary. Any tips on how to find a great guy?

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Sarah

I feel for you and your struggles. Life sometimes really loves to pile on the pain, doesn't it? The thing that helped me the most to get through the hard times was to give up some of the control I thought I had, or control I thought I could get. Bad things have happened, and they will happen again. I could either chose to let those bad feelings drown me, and then stuff myself with food and hiding away from the world--but these actions don't make the events any less easy, and they certainly don't go away. I hope you too can start by accepting the fact that there will be pain and you can't help when these things happen. But you can take care of yourself, and put your energy into your health, and energy into the positive relationships you have--the people who will support you. It helps to be honest about what happened and how it effected you. I find platforms like instagram helped me, because I could tell my story, and receive support in a space that feels more anonymous than with classmates or coworkers (for me at least). As for meeting a guy, heh. I met my guy on POF actually, which doesn't always work for everyone (have to weed through a lot of scum on there...) Overall, the best advice I have is when meeting people, maintain your independence, love yourself and love the things that make you, you. When I met him, I was at the healthiest point in my life--the truth is "I didn't need no man" and it worked. When you love yourself, you invite others love. Everyone has damages, bu

Happy Girl

Maintain my independence... I'm working on what that means.