Venting about motiviation (or lack of it)

Posted on July 5, 2016

Staying motiviated seems to be the hardest part about weight loss. From work stress, hanging out with friends, and often times, no one who is motiviated to join me in changing the way I eat and live is hard to deal with sometimes.

My husband is supportive and has changed his lifestyle as well, but not to the extent I have. He still enjoys the occasional fried food side, sugar treat, and alcoholic beverage. I've cut out all fried foods and excess sugar and will only drink once a week (or two depending on the events we have to attend). When I do drink, it is in moderation and within my calories for the day per my exercising. There's only 1 cheat meal a week for me and that means I can add in more cheese, rice, or other carb-licious thing my body just typically processes into fat! It's hard to watch him eat that amazing egg roll from my favorite Chinese restaurant down the road and not crave it. It's getting easier the more I avoid those types of food because I don't seem to want them as much.

I just keep living by the same motto when things get rough: Don't give up what you want most for what you want right now. It's keeping me going, but it would help to find some like minded individuals to get guidance and share experiences with! I loved my first DietBet because everyone was making comments and asking questions or providing answers/opinions. I would love to know how others handle this in their every day world.

This is just me being slightly frustrated without anyone to have that great pep talk with! Venting always helps!

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LilyN

07/06/2016 11:31AM

Great job Sophia! It's really hard to keep going when the people in your real life don't know how to support you. DB has provided that support and place to vent about weight loss that was missing for me. I've been in games where people are super active and supportive, like Marcie's games, but I've been in others that are like crickets. I joined a community group to have a more stable group of DB folks to talk to daily, try Weigh to Go: https://www.dietbet.com/community/groups/279-weigh-to-go

Marcie

07/05/2016 2:26PM

Sounds like you are doing great! You are right, it really does get easier because our palettes adjust to eating better and once you give up (as a habit) sugar and processed foods, you will find yourself craving healthier foods. Food you used to like (a donut and a hotdog are my favorite examples) will no longer appeal to you - I know for me those 2 items don't even seem like food or anything I would put in my mouth. That said, of course there are treats out there you will still want sometimes. And you can fit them in occasionally as long as you get right back on track. it is hard when you are with someone who eats carelessly and/or who is constantly eating things that you view as a treat. I know - my husband is an ice cream fiend and that is my one real sweet weakness. But as you say, it really does help to keep your eye on the prize! You have heard me say this - always remember your "WHY" - why is losing weight and being healthier so important to you? Weight loss is very mental and you need to be motivated by something that really matters to you. That said, there is also the issue of balance and deprivation. If you are able to have an occasional egg roll without hitting the "slippery slope" just like you can drink alcohol once or twice a week and keep within your daily plan - than that is OK. It is what you do on regular basis, building those healthy habits, that really matters most. Come vent anytime in my next game - we are a supportive interactive bunch! We st

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