Too Skinny?????

**Warning: This is a pet peeve post!

Every week, dietbet posts an update on my facebook page. And every week, one of my facebook "friends" comments that I don't need to lose any more weight.

How is this O.K.?

I mean, if I commented on one of her "Martha is at Ruby Tuesday" status updates that she doesn't need to be eating there because she needs to lose weight, I don't think that would go over very well. amiright?

And it's not just her. 7 years ago, I lost 35 lbs, and since then I cannot count the number of times I have been told that I am "too skinny" or that I "don't need to lose any more". What the what?? It's not like I am underweight - I'm right around 23% BMI (healthy is 18.5-25)

I know that most people are well-meaning and intend it as a compliment, but how am I supposed to respond to that?

Them: "Girl, you are too skinny! You don't need to lose any more weight!"

Me: "Thanks".... no, that's not quite right.

or "Oh no, I'm really fatter than I look"... that's just weird, and a lie.

or "Well, thank you for your opinion on my weight, would you like me to offer you my opinion on yours?"... this is what I'd like to say, but I don't have the guts!

so... I just give an awkward laugh and say nothing.

Am I being overly sensitive? Making a big deal over nothing?

Does anyone out there have a better/nicer comeback?

Bethany H.

08/14/2014 4:42PM

My go-to is "Haha, well, you don't know how much weight I've gained!" To be perfectly honest, its one thing for someone to say "You don't need to be on a diet" to a person that is in the healthy BMI range, but it truly irks me when I see them say it to someone who is 50+ pounds overweight! Lets all encourage each other to healthy living! I don't understand why that is so hard.

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Mendy A.

08/12/2014 7:27PM

Frustrating! That is the word!! There you are, trying so hard to be determined and consistent and make good choices - and then well-meaning people try to undermine you! Very frustrating!

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Road Runner Girl

08/12/2014 7:13PM

I get this ALL the time now! I say I only have 3 more pounds to lose to be at my goal weight and they say no...you don't need to lose any more! It's frustrating! And then today...my boss at work came to make sure I ate lunch! Just because we are making healthy choices people thing we are starving ourselves! So not the case!!!

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